The inevitable FIRST Argument.

"Always tell the truth"

Never lie or sugar-coat to you partner because, in turn, you wouldn't want them to lie or sugar-coat anything to you. The person you are with is supposed to be your partner, your other half, your second brain etc. not and interrogating officer or newscaster. This is the person you can share you inner most thought, ideas and feelings too.

Our first fight was over a pack of ciggarettes. I am no smoker and I don't intend on smoking. However. there are those extremely rare occassions that I actually think that smoking will help with stress. Or that smoking makes me feel bad. HA! It just so happened on Tuesday, Max fell asleep w/o my knowledge. I was at school studying when an old friend came to visit my work station. I smelt a fragrance of smoke circulating his clothes. Disspointed find this knowledge out he hands me his brand new pack and walks out. Assumuing he was going to come back he never did and I got kicked out the library b/c they were closing. I ended up bringing the pack home in my backpack and got the sudden urge to smoke, to feel bad. I was stressed b/c Max's last text was very ambiguous and negative and when I tried to clarify all my 26 calls went straight to voicemail. I walked outside and lit the ciggarettte and took a hit. Moments later I smash it to the ground because I knew smoking was for me.

Later that night while I was studying in my room and he was just chillen, he spoted the pack of ciggarettes and asked me, "Since when did you smoke." I frankly told him it wasn't mind and said I didn't smoke any. I really didn't count lighting it up and taking one hit was smoking a whole ciggarette. He didn't believe that a smoker in these days would simply 'let you(me) take his brand new Malboro Lights and not asked for them'. I did actually ask for them back but I was already goe b/c I got kicked out the library and he never came back to pick them up. But w/o giving you a scripted back & fourth dialog of what heppend the moral of the story is this:

"when you with someone that you potentially trying to have a furture with .. BE YOURSELF. Be as truthful and honest as you can make youself with the other person. Tell him/her exactly what you want and or expect and if there's disagreements TALK about it. Do not agrue but talk about it. The clearer you make things to your partner the easier it is for them to read you"

I told Max I didn't smoke when the intention os lighting the ciggarrette was to smoke it and to 'possibly' releive stress. The conflict: I say I am not a smoker yet, im relying on the ciggarrette to relieve stress. Max is tryinf to quit and he isn't forbidding me to smoke BUT he doesn't want me to get addicted like he and his other friends did. All he asked was that I let him know. This was the conclusion after 2.3 hours. Next time, let's just stick to the honesty is the BEST policy =)