The stage of a a relationship

This short video is a GREAT way of re-evaluating where you are in a relationship. It will give you a better insight into why ups and downfalls of a relationship. Watch this video and see how much you will understand about your significant other.

Happy Easter

First Easter dinner with HIS Family.

Formal meals when much of the family tradition is spent in the kitchen is and always be an important event that you much approach properly. In every aspect they will be examining you on how you carry yourself with the family, how you act in the house and if you will let your guard down.

1. Posture!
Always have an excited and helpful spirit in all that you do. When your in the presence of your man's family always sit-up straight and always "offer" to do something.

2. Insist on helping!
You are a special guest to their son and if they are the one preparing all day for their family traditional meal than, the least you could do is offer ... NO INSIST on giving a helping hand. Like my mom, and many others, they tell you to go about your business and let them handle things in the kitchen. THIS IS A TRICK! Only if she returns the insisting behavior with a higher tone do you back down and step out the kitchen.

3. Bring something to share!
If you can't get your point across and help in the kitchen then have a back-up plan. Bring something you know the whole family can enjoy that will add to the dinner or something that they are missing. Don't just take the free meal & dip .. please.

4. Bon appetite! ..not so fast!
When it's time to eat. Don't be the first to take their seat. Help set up the table and arrange the table for the various dishes. Eat at the same pace as the people around (excluding your Boyfriend, b/c my bf eats like vacuum).

5. Smile with a Compliment!
Everyone loves receiving compliment. Figure out which of the dishes the mother labor the hardest for or was the most worried about for you liking AND COMPLIMENT it like crazy. Mention anything and everything you can. "this is amazing .." "how did you make this?" "o0oo what's that?"

6. Engage in conversation!
Don't just sit there and eat fattie. TALK! It's important to talk and converse with your potential family-in-law. If they bring up anything about a topic make sure to say SOMETHING about it. In my case, the dad was a advent "Seinfeld" watcher. I was quick to say "... NO SOUP FOR YOU!!"

7. Clean-up
Make sure to clean your own plate and TRY your hardest to start washing dishes. Even if you are not successful in washing all the dishes it is still better that someone sees you putting in the initiative to be apart of the family and clean up.

The fact of the matter is... this dinner is absolutely NOT about the food. It is an informal behavioral interview with his parents regarding your mannerisms and home traditions. Follow these steps and always be in your best behavior. You are not in the family just because you got their son to love you.

Tip: try ween the mother and sister to be comfortable with you. They carry and great leverage in their acceptance of you. ;)

Transition from the world you create and reality

As much as you wan to stay in the world of love and spend all day cuddling and spending time with each other every couple must go through separation and go back to their world of responsibilities.

Support each other in each of your efforts and responsibilities, encourage each other to strive higher and don't get jealous of one another achievements.

P.S. Here's a 5 Tips to having a Successful Relationship.

I found it to be very amusing and relevant to everyday relationship problems.

Sunday Mornings

How can it be that when I'm surrounded by your arms in bed, time will pass by so quickly. Everything around us seems to loose importance and the only care in my mind is just for me to constantly feel your warm embrace across my body. As time continues to slowly enter into the new day the world stops when I gaze at your eyes centimeters away from your face. You can never escape it, you never want to but you must pull up the courage and remember there's life outside of the sight of the person you love.

If it's real love, Love will always find it's way back to your heart if its meant to be.

After the storm

Its natural for your companion to still have doubt in the relationship after a storm or a major argument. Give them time to adjust and let things settle so the trust between you two will be built on a stronger foundation.

If you are like me, I always heard honesty is the best policy. Unfortunately, for me because of my trust issues I wasn't able to completely tell the truth the my Beloved.

PROBLEM: After 4 months of being together I finally, that Max was in this relationship for real and he was 'in it to win it'. When we started dating I held back certain events/details that I didn't feel comfortable sharing just yet. I knew at some point the entire truth had to come out but it was just a matter of when.

In my opinion, I'm not obligated to be completely share certain details or events in my past unless I feel that you can be trusted and I am comfortable. Why should I risk my secret to someone I don't completely trust yet? I know lying is bad but just because someone asks you a personal question doesn't mean you have to answer them.

In his opinion, he felt betrayed and that the whole relationship was a lie. He was truthful from the very beginning with faith in our relationship so 'I' should have too. Max was frustrated because out of no where and our romantic get-away in NYC, I ruin our 'perfect' relationship with a lie.

Although, I understand his frustration and feeling of betrayal... we are both NOT WRONG

What should have happened, was when Max asked me a personal question (or any question) I should have expressed to him my uncomfortable feelings of sharing about the topic. I should have told him that there was more to the story or that I would explain more when I felt more comfortable. I shouldn't have assumed that he was insist on demanding an explanation and it's better that you at least mention that there's more to the story.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!!!!!

P.S. && if you beloved partner doesn't understand that you are uncomfortable with sharing certain things about your past then you should reconsider who you dating. When dating a person, he/she will ALWAYS have a past story. Whether its bad or good it's still in the past and the past is the past. There's nothing that can be done to change it. If your partner cannot be understanding about your past and except you for YOU & what you PAST holds then, please think a little hard on the person you are about to enter a relationship with.