After the storm

Its natural for your companion to still have doubt in the relationship after a storm or a major argument. Give them time to adjust and let things settle so the trust between you two will be built on a stronger foundation.

If you are like me, I always heard honesty is the best policy. Unfortunately, for me because of my trust issues I wasn't able to completely tell the truth the my Beloved.

PROBLEM: After 4 months of being together I finally, that Max was in this relationship for real and he was 'in it to win it'. When we started dating I held back certain events/details that I didn't feel comfortable sharing just yet. I knew at some point the entire truth had to come out but it was just a matter of when.

In my opinion, I'm not obligated to be completely share certain details or events in my past unless I feel that you can be trusted and I am comfortable. Why should I risk my secret to someone I don't completely trust yet? I know lying is bad but just because someone asks you a personal question doesn't mean you have to answer them.

In his opinion, he felt betrayed and that the whole relationship was a lie. He was truthful from the very beginning with faith in our relationship so 'I' should have too. Max was frustrated because out of no where and our romantic get-away in NYC, I ruin our 'perfect' relationship with a lie.

Although, I understand his frustration and feeling of betrayal... we are both NOT WRONG

What should have happened, was when Max asked me a personal question (or any question) I should have expressed to him my uncomfortable feelings of sharing about the topic. I should have told him that there was more to the story or that I would explain more when I felt more comfortable. I shouldn't have assumed that he was insist on demanding an explanation and it's better that you at least mention that there's more to the story.

COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!!!!!

P.S. && if you beloved partner doesn't understand that you are uncomfortable with sharing certain things about your past then you should reconsider who you dating. When dating a person, he/she will ALWAYS have a past story. Whether its bad or good it's still in the past and the past is the past. There's nothing that can be done to change it. If your partner cannot be understanding about your past and except you for YOU & what you PAST holds then, please think a little hard on the person you are about to enter a relationship with.